Moving with Kids
How do I make the move easier on my kids?
In all of the hustle and bustle, parents sometimes overlook the
children, who are very concerned about the upcoming move. For children
(and teenagers) a move means leaving everything that is important: their
home, their school, their teams and clubs, and their friends. They are
not normally involved in the decision to move, and many times do not
understand the necessity to move. It's a frightening prospect.
Important things to keep in mind:
- It is not unusual for children to show signs of stress, such as
problems sleeping, anxiety, and lack of appetite.
- Children need time to deal with feelings of loss or separation and
the more time they have the better. Tell your children as soon as
you can.
- Explain in simple terms why the move is necessary. Make it short
and positive, without overselling – children often know
when a parent is masking negative feelings.
- As the children become used to the idea of moving, tell them about
their new home and what they might expect to find there.
- Encourage open communication. Let children talk about their
feelings. Reassure them their feelings are normal.
- Attachments are strong, even at a young age. It may take some time
for a child to let go.
- Involve your children in the move. Ask for their opinions and
suggestions. Their point of view may provide insight into their true
feelings.
- Get them involved. Give them their own to-do lists so they can be
a part of the process.
Most people plan their move to coincide with the end of the school year.
Child psychologists, however, suggest moving at least a month before the
end of the school year so that they can make new friends before the long
summer break. Children adapt much better when they have a circle of
friends and some routine.
Don't forget that professional advice is only a phone call away. We
help thousands of families move to new homes every year. We invite
you to contact John, he will be happy to answer any questions.
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